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Originally Posted by Rykoshet
Some questions. When approaching the hot woman a day, should I be in a mindset of picking her up, or just saying hello and passing by?
I'm in college so nobody really is articulate or well-spoken to such a degree, but if you have a few pointers they would be useful.
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Consider this.. Know when people make a home video? They kind of move around like "Hello Jeff. This is Jeff. Say hello to Jeff, everyone. Now we're moving into the kitchen... ahaha, ahahah" - That's their home video mindset. They don't want to make a fool of themselves because they know people will be watching it years down the line so they overarticulate everything. When guys approach women they go into this whole "pickup" mindset and it's a massive turnoff because it telegraphs way too much interest. We'll get to this later.
So lets start at the basics.. before you even approach you need to make sure your body language is correct. This means:
Slow, deliberate gestures. Walk very slowly, if you're used to being jittery and nervous it might feel like you're almost swimming but people instantly pick up on it and see you as confident.
Keep your head up at all times.
A good thing to do is to "lift" your chest, because it puts your body into a more masculine position and fixes all the posture issues.
Walk from your hips.. most guys walk from their chest or head and it looks weird. Start walking from your hips - consciously walk from the hips rather than your chest, it will feel different and look much better. Try it right now and you'll see what I mean.
Depending on your personality, cultivate the expression on your face.. Decide whether you're the kind of guy who wants the "badboy" look (squinted eyes, furrowed brow, pursed lips) or to have a sly smile on your face most of the time. Whatever it is, don't just have a blank expression.
Lean BACK. I can't stress this enough. When you lean in to someone, especially a girl, it telegraphs way too much interest and they get scared off. Let them orient their body to you as time goes on - in fact, I always talk to girls over my shoulder, as if i'm just passing by, and wait for them to crowd around me rather than attempting to orient myself to them.
Obvious stuff, but keep your hands away from each other, if you play with your hands, crack your knuckles, touch your face, shit like that, you will come across as nervous. Just keep them by your sides, on your hips, or in your back pockets.
After body language is your clothes.. Some basics. Have a good pair of shoes (this is the most important part) your trainers won't cut it unless you're black and going for the hip hop look. Wear a decent pair of jeans. Have some jewelry. I'm sure you know this stuff but brush your teeth and bathe before you go out, groom your facial hair accordingly, always have fresh breath and smooth lips. Have one or two interesting items that girls can comment on, like a tie, a necklace, a large ring, a pair of sunglasses (especially at night) etc, it makes you stand out and gives girls an excuse to approach you so you don't have to. I'm serious, you will just get random girls coming up to you whenever you're out and about saying "wow, that's cool, where did you get it?"
After clothes is your tonality of voice.. Speak from your chest, not your mouth and nose. A deep voice is universally attractive. Also, speak slowly and deliberately, and use pauses. (Unless you're a very high energy guy, in which case, do what works for you.)
As for the words.. They really don't matter. It's all about your mindset and how you say it. Some people use "openers," prescripted things they go out and use to approach girls with. Personally I just say whatever comes to mind, though if you want me to give you some openers with a very high success rate, I can.
Most people have a mindset as follows:
I will take whatever I can get (which is not much)
There is nothing special or unique about you, I settled for you, because I have no sexual choice. I’m grateful just to find someone who is willing to fuck a loser like me, apparently that someone is you.
Being with me makes you feel common and used.
You want to have every word out of your mouth coming from this angle:
I have a lot of choice when it comes to women. I am accustomed to success with women.
If I do take a liking to you, it is more than just for your looks. It is because you are a special and unique person who lives up to my high expectations.
I will only be with a quality woman and that’s what you are.
Just believe those three things about yourself, at all times. Would someone with the first belief, for example, get nervous? No. What would he think if some woman told him to get lost? He'd probably laugh and think it was her loss.
I wouldn't recommend this around campus (since people know you) but sometimes its fun to walk up to women and say crazy shit, just to see what happens. Make a fool of yourself and get over fear of public rejection because it frees up your mind to say what you want. A lot of sad guys approach and get all intense with boring questions like.. What do you do.. How are you.. Where do you work.. Got any brothers or sisters.. Its painful. Bust her balls, be cocky and funny, be fun and interesting. Say whatever comes into your head.
If you do decide to approach, post the results here and i'll analyze what happened and how you could improve. Good luck.
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