It's okay to fear love, but it's hellish to fear the fear of love.
If you fear love (through mis-understanding and lack of experience), then at least you know that it can never harm you. How can it, if it's love? If you fear love, then no matter what your fears are you are always focusing on a positive thing (love). If you fear love then no matter what fears you face you can always be sure that once you've confronted it you will see that it's not a threat at all but in fact fantastic and beautiful. because It's love.
To fear love would be something like this:
You see a girl you really like. You are afraid to talk to her. You can see of all the good things that may happen but they scare you. She may like you, want to stay with you, and maybe have sex with you. All this is positive in your eyes, but the fact that it's unknown makes you nervous about the unknown experiences that may lay ahead. This is a fear of positive experiences (love).
However if you fear the fear of love, then that will be different.
You won't be afraid of a positive thing like before, you will be afraid of a negative things - fear. You will not be focusing on the positive things that come with facing a fear of love, you will be focusing on the bad things that you fear about fear.
To fear fear would be something like this:
There is a girl that you really like. You are afraid to talk to her because if you do your fears will take a hold. You won't be able to talk and she'll think you're totally weak and not worth anything to her at all. You'll go home thinking that you aren't important to girls at all and these things that you love (girls) will never be close to you. All because you fear the fear that you may experience.
So if you fear love, that's okay. It's okay to fear!!! Even the strong people fear, but the reason they are strong is because they fear a positive thing and so have the courage and positivity to confront it.
Weak people however are afraid of fear, so they avoid the things they fear because all they can think of is all the bad things that can happen. After never confronting something, they can never see its beauty and so never be relaxed to it.
Don't be afraid to be afraid. Do what you fear, and know that its okay to be afraid. Although there really is no need.
Fear only had power over you if you fear it.
There may not be many people who understand this. If you are afraid of love then you might not know what it's like to be afraid of the fear of love, and Vica Versa, so you might not relate.
[This message has been edited by ---Beany--- (edited 02-28-2004).]
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